Anyone here regret getting married and having kids?

[Mongo966]

The issue is, we Whites are an absolute minority and are less than 10% of the world's population and it's about the survival of humanity itself. What if everybody chooses to be childless. There should be a lot incentives for people to get married, forced to stay married (no money whatsoever for the woman) and get children and extreme high tax burden for those who choose to opt out.

Also if I read that an American is part of the occupation force in my Germany, my heart starts playing the 'Devil's Song March'.

I wouldn't get too excited. "Occupation" might be a strong word. The US has been in Germany for what, ~78 years anyways? Canadians are deployed there too. It's normal. I don't think the US has ever left a country they've won wars in. Someone will likely correct me on that.

 

[ThinkDeroid]

It's normal. I don't think the US has ever left a country they've won wars in.

Sure thing! It's still occupation, though. I don't see German tanks driving through the US. And I strongly oppose it as a German and the majority in East Germany does (the rest of Germans are cked beyond return). We are tired of the forced diversity, anti White and fgt indoctrination culture from America. I would welcome Russia and their Orthodox Christian philosophy.

 

[trtbuilder]

Sure thing! It's still occupation, though. I don't see German tanks driving through the US. And I strongly oppose it as a German and the majority in East Germany does (the rest of Germans are cked without help). We are tired of the forced diversity, anti White and fgt indoctrination culture from America. I would welcome Russia and their Orthodox Christian philosophy.

You don't see German tanks in the US because we'd laugh at you since you have literally zero power to oppose anything we want. Enjoy! We'll never leave.

 

[Mongo966]

Sure thing! It's still occupation, though. I don't see German tanks driving through the US. And I strongly oppose it as a German and the majority in East Germany does (the rest of Germans are cked without help). We are tired of the forced diversity, anti White and fgt indoctrination culture from America. I would welcome Russia and their Orthodox Christian philosophy.

Oh no shit. I had no idea. I'm out of touch with a lot of this stuff. I try to keep up on world events but I've been out of the service for 12 years and I've pretty much left it all behind at this point. I'm not even the same dude any more and I'm happy about that.
As far as Russia goes, I don't know enough about what they have to offer to really have an opinion. I just know about what I see in mainstream news and it's obviously biased. Not saying it's necessarily inaccurate, just biased.

 

[ThinkDeroid]

You don't see German tanks in the US because we'd laugh at you since you have literally zero power to oppose anything we want.

You are absolutely correct.

Z.

 

[ThinkDeroid]

Oh no shit. I had no idea. I'm out of touch with a lot of this stuff. I try to keep up on world events but I've been out of the service for 12 years and I've pretty much left it all behind at this point. I'm not even the same dude any more and I'm happy about that.
As far as Russia goes, I don't know enough about what they have to offer to really have an opinion. I just know about what I see in mainstream news and it's obviously biased. Not saying it's necessarily inaccurate, just biased.

Germany is enforcing US culture 1:1, just with a bit delay.

Suddenly German Kindergarten children have to learn about multiple genders and get sex education at the age of 6. Abortion (murder) is now a human right. And Germany has to take all the muslim immigrants from all the wars the US is fighting for Israel since decades, while US NGOs finance the human trafficking of Africans by ships to the EU who all go to Germany because of the welfare system.

And it goes on and on and on with that stuff from that evil empire... where can I sign up to learn Russian.

 

[notanothersnake]

This shit made me laugh so hard. You can bang a bunch of skeezers or you can settle down and start a family. Can’t have the best of both worlds brother.

I disagree! It is in fact possible. 12yrs and going strong...

 

[6tren]

i had a novel typed out but I’ll simplify it. It’s still going to be a novel FYI

- You are NEVER ready to be a father and husband. No books or podcasts will ever prepare you for pulling a baby out of a vagina. That first $1300 daycare bill (per kid / per month) will give you a heart attack. Youre never prepared to sleep 2 hours a night for 3 months straight while working 40 hours a week (if you’re lucky and your kid actually sleeps after 3 months)

- Being single is easy and safe, but it’s not rewarding. The only people who care about your money and accolades are other superficial adults. You can keep your wall up and be selfish 24/7 but one day you’re gonna be 55 years old in an empty house. You realize you will die alone and nobody will care. Your dogs might eat your corpse because nobody will even know you kicked the bucket and you just sit in the recliner for 2 weeks until the smell scares your neighbors.

- Having a wife and kids is awesome if you don’t pick the wrong ones. A lot of guys will choose the spoiled ass rich girl with fake tits, and then be surprised when she’s a bitch who only cares about money. You can NOT think with your dick. There are girls who swallow your kids, and there are girls who raise your kids. LEARN THE DIFFERENCE. If she didn’t grow up with a father, don’t even pay attention to her. There’s so much data out there to help you pick the right woman. She might not fuck like a pornstar, but that shouldn’t be your priority when you choose the mother of your seed.

- Your kids are the ONLY people on earth who will love you no matter what if you’re a good person. They’ll even love you if you’re a piece of shit until they get older. They don’t care about your height or bank account. Your kids don’t care if you’re ugly or skinny. You are a superhero in their eyes. After the worst days of my life, nothing is better than coming home to my son wanting to play fight. You see true joy and innocence. Your kids are YOU, but you have a chance to give them the parents that you feel like you deserved.

It’s not easy and it’s not always fun. TBH I think a lot of people should not have kids. Too many people have their own unaddressed problems that will make them terrible parents. I’ve been with 100+ women and only 5 of them were wife material. It’s 2024 and the numbers are not in our favor. Don’t rush into it.

But you and your wife need to talk about: finances, religion, parenting, family, long term goals, and intimacy. A lot of guys think that a chick is wife material because she sucks dick and cooks. Then they realize that’s only a fraction of a relationship. You don’t have to agree on everything but you need to discuss it. And remember. YOU MARRY THE PERSON IN FRONT OF YOU. Not the person you “think” you can convince them to be.

I think this has been the best piece of advice so far. Marry the person in front of you has been something I've improved on dating wise, since I had a problem of fantasying the girl into something she's not. I like the kids part you wrote about with unconditional love. Yeah, I agree, girls with daddy issues are fucking whores.

What data are you talking about with finding the right woman?

 

[6tren]

I disagree! It is in fact possible. 12yrs and going strong...

Talk to me brother, start from the beginning.

 

[RaddishPork]

I think this has been the best piece of advice so far. Marry the person in front of you has been something I've improved on dating wise, since I had a problem of fantasying the girl into something she's not. I like the kids part you wrote about with unconditional love. Yeah, I agree, girls with daddy issues are fucking whores.

What data are you talking about with finding the right woman?

No data is perfect but a lot of stereotypes are true. Before anyone gets butthurt I know there are exceptions to every rule. But from my experience, and statistics, just generally speaking…

- Quality of marriage is declining at the same time antidepressants and birth control are skyrocketing. I avoid chicks who need psych meds for the obvious mental health issues. And a single girl on birth control is usually sleeping around way more than the ones who practice abstinence or wait for the right guy. (More partners = less stability and pair bonding)

- Too many sexual partners is a red flag. Plenty of data showing women are more likely to cheat and / or divorce the higher their body count is.

- Father figures are crucial for men and women both. If she never had a father figure in her life she’s probably not good to marry.

- Overly committed to her education and career. Women with higher educations and salaries are also more likely to cheat and / or divorce.

- Attention seeking behavior like neon green hair, a ton of face piercings, and being covered in tats…. Mentally stable people don’t go out of their way to stand out for strangers. It’s one thing for a hair stylist or tattoo artist, but the Starbucks barista with face tats needs therapy, not a husband.

I’m not saying any of these things make you a bad person. But I have been with a lot of crazy women and these are the common denominators. Some of the most fun I ever had were with these crazy chicks. But fun and commitment should have different standards.

 

[RaddishPork]

I disagree! It is in fact possible. 12yrs and going strong...

There are outliers for every situation. That doesn’t mean everyone should have an open marriage because a tiny fraction of them succeed. There’s a reason most swingers have a rule that there has to be more women than men.
Every guy wants to fuck other girls. But almost no guys want their wife to fuck other guys lol.

I used to work at a hotel that hosted secret swinger parties. Some of them were good folks but most of them were insufferable behind closed doors. I’m not the judge of right and wrong. I was just telling OP the safest way to go about this. Divorce rate is already over 50% for traditional marriages. Not gonna be any better when you have to navigate a 3rd or 4th person in it.

 

[crtx]

man you guys need your heads checked if this is society thinking of life, marriage kids cheating money divorce what a sick place we live in.

You know who she is when you meet her you know she is the one to marry as for marriage i have ZERO regrets besides one should of done it sooner! been together with my misses nearly 17yrs - 12 of those married and 3 kids later all boys. we are both close to 40yrs old.

No one knows what type of parents you will be its all learn as we go. What happens along the way is YOUR choices you both make.

No one meets to purposoly break up, divorce cheat. its all your CHOICES in life.

Money comes and go. Your wife and kids are with you until the end.

We all age gracefully our wifes become mothers just remeber the person you met not the people you have both aged to become.

 

[Jabroni_Meathead]

Sure thing! It's still occupation, though. I don't see German tanks driving through the US. And I strongly oppose it as a German and the majority in East Germany does (the rest of Germans are cked beyond return). We are tired of the forced diversity, anti White and fgt indoctrination culture from America. I would welcome Russia and their Orthodox Christian philosophy.

Germans have always been on the wrong side of history. Now they’re living in a bubble with a weak and ineffective military. At least Poland gets it.

 

[notanothersnake]

Talk to me brother, start from the beginning.

Oh I got too many stories to tell... but I'll tell u how it started.
A few months into dating, my now wife said "I like girls" and I then said "me too"

 

[Smashshit]

Yep definitely regret getting married but not having kids. Just find the right person and start your family if you want one and if she wants to get married have a ceremony and rings just no legal paperwork. Trust me it’s not worth the hassle and money when it comes time to get divorced which 50% or more of all marriages these days end in divorce so…… I’ve found an amazing woman this time around and we’ve both been through it so we are perfectly content being happy and not screwing it up with a piece of paper.

 

[nightprowler7]

As a contractor training NATO, i make well over $100k and its tax free. Like I said... I have it all without children. Except i hate all of NATO and wish the US would pull out and let them fend for their weak ass selves.

If your friend is in Germany, what company does he work for? I know them all.

How does a government contractor not pay taxes????

 

[laclark89]

No data is perfect but a lot of stereotypes are true. Before anyone gets butthurt I know there are exceptions to every rule. But from my experience, and statistics, just generally speaking…

- Quality of marriage is declining at the same time antidepressants and birth control are skyrocketing. I avoid chicks who need psych meds for the obvious mental health issues. And a single girl on birth control is usually sleeping around way more than the ones who practice abstinence or wait for the right guy. (More partners = less stability and pair bonding)

- Too many sexual partners is a red flag. Plenty of data showing women are more likely to cheat and / or divorce the higher their body count

Not a bad outline here. Only thing els I can think of to add atm would be find a god fearing woman. But that is subjective also just like the rest of ur examples.

 

[Jabroni_Meathead]

How does a government contractor not pay taxes????

Foreign earned income exclusion for the US taxes.​

 

[fike]

I’m not reading through all this, so, I’ll just give you what I think. We are human and are going to wonder how things would be going if we went this or that direction. It doesn’t matter, because you’re at where you’re at right now with this specific set of blessing or curses on you. How are you going to deal with them? Lay down like a bitch? Most probably will. I love my wife and kids. I didn’t have any until I was 33, so I already had that dumb shit out of me and saw the importance of having that wife and kid. If I feel like I’m in a position where I may fuck up having my gorgeous fucking wife and amazing kids not with me anymore, I get away from that situation with the quickness. I got a bad little bitch.

 

[Werewolf Piss]

I been to war and train others to war.... humans are scum. Bringing more humans is not the answer.

War is gay