Actually, one parting note.
My Unc is a black man out of Harlem in the 60's. He's a multi-millionaire, he raised his boys to be respectful and hard working.
They are.
The number of times he's had Uncle Tom thrown in his face is mind blowing.
Even by family that've gone fucking nowhere, as he tries to give them opportunity after opportunity to improve themselves and their situations.
Instead of doing the work, they just want a piece.
But shit like that, which has become more and more prevalent regardless of race, couldn't possibly be the issue.
For the record, he has also offered me a lot of help. Ive turned him down repeatedly.
Not because I don't appreciate it, but because I'd rather do the same and make my own way.