Discussion with my Wife

[bigpoppachump]

And I I just saw your before and after picture of the last 4 months. Now I can see why she might be a bit alarmed. Im sure she's also to some degree worried about the social factor of what friends and family may be saying about you monstrous transformation over such a short period when she isnt around.

 

[koolio]

And I I just saw your before and after picture of the last 4 months. Now I can see why she might be a bit alarmed. Im sure she's also to some degree worried about the social factor of what friends and family may be saying about you monstrous transformation over such a short period when she isnt around.

I would wager that someone close to her said something about AAS...people are always talking about others behind their backs with little to zero knowledge of what they are talking about...it happened to me numerous times...

 

[Demondosage]

1. I’ve done everything possible to keep bodybuilding from impacting my family. I make good money. I bought us a house. She drives a Range. My son doesn’t want for anything. I spend time at home. I go out with them, my family, her family, whenever asked. I’m not that cunt toting a meal bag to restaurants all year. My health is in check. Etc.

So let me get this straight here dude...you're the sole provider for that family, she wouldn't have the same lifestyle without you working your ass off and being a good husband, father, provider, and something is wrong WITH YOU?

You have no idea of how pissed off I actually get reading this type of shit. She should RESPECT YOU AND NOT QUESTION A GOD DAMN THING about the one thing you have for yourself.

She should be glad she's not with me, if I heard that sort of shit from my wife I'd get even bigger just to say STFU, you don't control shit around here!!

You shouldn't be scrutinized like that from your family, it doesn't even sound like something that someone close to you should say to you. I can understand if someone was getting fatter or letting health go. It's bodybuilding for God sakes!!

Brother, I would be dressed to the 9's, cologne on, suit, whole 9 yards the next time we went out. I'd make it so it was right up in her face that you're desirable to women.

I could be 285 lbs with veins busting out everywhere and mine would love it. When I get on a new cycle she's actually excited for me, she starts asking me "Oh wow, what are you gonna use this time? Yea, thats awesome, we are gonna be getting it on all the time aren't we?" hahahha, dude all I'm saying is you gotta show em' the king of the jungle sometimes. don't back off, push the pedal to the floor!!

And why now? Why all of a sudden now is this coming up? I'd keep my eyes open dude, it sounds like something goes a little beyond "I don't want you big"

 

[Mac11wildcat]

I don’t think it’s anything more, to be honest (IE cheating, leaving me, etc). I think its got to do with what she thinks people think, what people say, and that maybe she doesn’t actually like me this big. Doesn’t mean she’ll leave me for it or make my life hell for it.

I can understand women not wanting their men as big as me (I get it, I’m only 5’7, but maybe being shorter makes the wider thing more of shock). I was never under any illusion that all women loved bodybuilding body types.

After a day or so we had a serious, less emotional talk about this and got her to understand that what I’m doing is IMPOSSIBLE without this stuff (gear), bodybuilding is mine, and that it’s a significant outlet for me.

I don’t think it’s ever been an issue because I’d never had a 16wk change be so drastic.

Situation is normalized. We have a new level playing field of understanding, and she wants to get back on Anavar lol. So we good.

There is a history of her having some issues earlier in life (bullying, depression, etc) that I think hang around and it makes things like these get fragile at points.

Only time will tell. But we’re good now.

 

[u2pride]

I don’t think it’s anything more, to be honest (IE cheating, leaving me, etc). I think its got to do with what she thinks people think, what people say, and that maybe she doesn’t actually like me this big. Doesn’t mean she’ll leave me for it or make my life hell for it.

I can understand women not wanting their men as big as me (I get it, I’m only 5’7, but maybe being shorter makes the wider thing more of shock). I was never under any illusion that all women loved bodybuilding body types.

After a day or so we had a serious, less emotional talk about this and got her to understand that what I’m doing is IMPOSSIBLE without this stuff (gear), bodybuilding is mine, and that it’s a significant outlet for me.

I don’t think it’s ever been an issue because I’d never had a 16wk change be so drastic.

Situation is normalized. We have a new level playing field of understanding, and she wants to get back on Anavar lol. So we good.

There is a history of her having some issues earlier in life (bullying, depression, etc) that I think hang around and it makes things like these get fragile at points.

Only time will tell. But we’re good now.

Mac, you have been good to understand her and spend time to reflect, you know your wife and her history.
Well done!

 

[Mac11wildcat]

Mac, you have been good to understand her and spend time to reflect, you know your wife and her history.
Well done!

Thanks.

But let’s be clear, she’s still a woman, lol. Anything is possible inside the warped female brain.

 

[Steve7888]

My wife smokes pot daily as well...we should remember pot is a depressant...call her on it and I get the wrath of the dragon lady.

They are also inferior...yet they demand specialized treatment and surroundings which we work hard for...material...body imagery...they have their ideals imbedded as gospel...

But fuck that...WE ARE MEN.

 

[Mac11wildcat]

@Millard Baker when does the forum get a “dislike” button. I’ve just discovered the need for it.

 

[Steve7888]

@Millard Baker when does the forum get a “dislike” button. I’ve just discovered the need for it.

If this is in context to my post...that is fine.

But when can we as men express dismay and not be relegated when we are generally the sole providers of our households?

I've been married 20 years...to the love of my life...whom I highly respect and adore...but there has to be reciprocation, flexibility, and respect for eachothers endeavors and dreams.

I have funded my wifes failed attempts at business...never beat her up about it...but if I show her a pic of my bodybuilding goals she says she doesnt accept that...basically the person that matters most to me crushing my aspirations...sound familiar?...the answer is what you lay forth...either succumb to her ideals of what she wants in a man...or be the man you want to be and see if she is truly your rock.

 

[Mac11wildcat]

Maybe the context of my thread was miscommunicated. And I certainly respect your experience in being married far longer than I.

But in general, the situation is smoothed over and I THINK an understanding been come to. Time will tell. I have no issue with her expressing concern or dislike. Vital part of communication. But I think, even if she truly doesn’t like me this big or is concerned for my health that she’s gotten a true glimpse of what it means to me and what the drugs do in this process.

I do however wholeheartedly disagree with “inferior,” as I know I could not find a place like she has being comfortable with being in charge of the house, and raising our child while I work. I do not have the faith in anyone that she’s put in me.

 

[Steve7888]

Maybe the context of my thread was miscommunicated. And I certainly respect your experience in being married far longer than I.

But in general, the situation is smoothed over and I THINK an understanding been come to. Time will tell. I have no issue with her expressing concern or dislike. Vital part of communication. But I think, even if she truly doesn’t like me this big or is concerned for my health that she’s gotten a true glimpse of what it means to me and what the drugs do in this process.

I do however wholeheartedly disagree with “inferior,” as I know I could not find a place like she has being comfortable with being in charge of the house, and raising our child while I work. I do not have the faith in anyone that she’s put in me.

I'm glad youve smoothed it out.

I am a bit old school and expect a woman to hold their own in the home if I am holding my end as a hunter gatherer so to speak.

I want my woman to be delicate and humble...but if she disrespects OUR family with selfish turbulence...i will not be the one to chase.

As the years pass...you will witness their inferiority...its not necessarily a bad thing...just in their inherent design. My opinion sorry but not sorry lol.

 

[muleman]

She’s a woman and they all shit test us it’s in there nature they can’t help it, stay strong and be in charge. Or the next shit test is worse!!

 

[balco]

Had to overthink it, she was in tears telling me this. I honestly do believe my offseason was just too productive so far Too much too fast.

Maybe she does just dislike how I look. But I have to keep a thought to her being concerned over my health and well-being given her father’s passing (he also used AAS).

Complicated situation, and complicated further by things she based on opinion on that werent true.

Just curious, what was your cycle?

 

[MisterSuperGod]

@Millard Baker when does the forum get a “dislike” button. I’ve just discovered the need for it.

Closest thing to that is simply not liking the post. Anyway, if the wife gets on your nerves, send her packing and come hang with me. We'll go bowling.

 

[Mac11wildcat]

Just curious, what was your cycle?

750 test, 500 deca dropped to 350, 350 tren added in two week bursts (2 weeks on, 2 off, 2 on) at the end of the cycle.

Closest thing to that is simply not liking the post. Anyway, if the wife gets on your nerves, send her packing and come hang with me. We'll go bowling.

*scribbles “bowling with supergod” off the right side of calendar page

 

[Achilles56]

I see you have smoothed it out hopefully so this may be a pointless add-on. However, in my experience with my own relationship and a few of my friends, you mentioned that she had gained some weight and lost her way as far as fitness goes. She might be trying to bring you down a notch to help her feel better about how she is maintaining herself. I find that when one partner falls off the wagon a bit and doesnt really like the way they are looking, it is much easier to start tempting the other to go out to eat more or make them feel guilty about working out so much and caring about their physique as a way to compensate for their own insecurities. This could be not relevant at all for your situation as she just said she doesn't want you getting bigger for whatever her reasoning might be, jsut thought I would share another possibility. Just make sure she knows that you love her (as it seems you do), no matter the recent choices she has made and that your love for the gym and your physique in no way reflects a resentment toward her or her lack of love for the gym nowadays.

 

[Eman]

For what it's worth @Mac11wildcat, I don't think you look too big at all. Completely average gym goer actually. Did you just start lifting a few weeks ago? Maybe take your wife for an eye exam?

Hope this makes you feel better.

 

[Mac11wildcat]

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For what it's worth @Mac11wildcat, I don't think you look too big at all. Completely average gym goer actually. Did you just start lifting a few weeks ago? Maybe take your wife for an eye exam?

Hope this makes you feel better.

just a casual weekend warrior lol

She has since gotten her shit together with regards to diet and the gym and asked for more var. Call it a W.

Situation was more complex than I could articulate. Such is the female mind.

 

[Bundy55]

You sound like a good man bro. No advice here because I just don’t have enough patience to stay in long term relationships at this point of my life but I wish you and your partner the best in finding some common ground here. God bless

 

[Mac11wildcat]

You sound like a good man bro. No advice here because I just don’t have enough patience to stay in long term relationships at this point of my life but I wish you and your partner the best in finding some common ground here. God bless

Appreciate it. Flawed just like anyone else but I do my best.