Loners have a different energy level.
You have your extroverts that society champions, the outgoing, marketing, networking social butterfly types. That is what the United States loves, because America is all about advertising and basically lying through their teeth. They hand you a bag of shit with a great big grin and some sexy words and look at you strange if you point out that it's just a bag of shit.
Then there are the loners. Totally different energy level. I will not waste my energy on networking(I couldn't do it even if I tried), I won't sell myself. I won't sit around and feed you lies in order to get you to do something. I'm more likely to warn you about problems and look on the negative side, not because we are defeatists, but because we want to consider the negative first and see if those problems can be avoided and I prefer to be totally honest and up front that most things in life are just a big bag of dog shit.
I was a loner for the first 40 years of my life. All my friends were loners too. Terrible strategy. Major red flag in Darwinian terms.
It’s very easy to defeat a loner, and loners often look and sound defeated.
You talk a lot about survival in the wild and all that, doing it alone is the worst way to go about it. You might make it, for a while. But you will never do very well and you will always be one bad day away from catastrophe.
Cooperation is the most powerful force in the universe. 2 men together can do the work of 3. The only thing more powerful than a cooperative equilibrium among men would be the discovery of perpetual motion.
Loners hate to cooperate because they are all about themselves. Cooperation is a win/win game and a lose/lose game. Loners can’t get past the lose/lose part, because they can’t stand to invest in anyone other than themselves.
Weather it’s marriage, or war, or famine or any other difficulty, loners get taken out first. Nobody gives a shit if there not around because they weren’t an asset to the group.
I live alone. I like living alone. I love my personal space. All my ducks in a row like I want them. I love silence. I love reading and thinking and just staring off into space for any reason or for no reason at all. I get it.
I’ve overcome that negative thought pattern though, and I’m grateful to be able to serve the needs of others so that I can afford my own space. And the more I invest in the relationships with the people around me, the better my life gets, and not just materially. I have much more peace, and joy, and hope than I ever did before.
You see people negatively and life negatively, but that is a reflection of who you are. That is not an accurate assessment of the people around you and life itself. You’ll find once you get to changing your attitude and your behavior, like magic, people are not so bad and life can be pretty awesome.
Your problem is you.
