As far as the origins of this all.. as a father I felt your post. But everything I believe in otherwise says u should not be able to censor people... people however do have to suffer the consequences of the free speech that they are awarded... So if u smacked monstar for saying what he said, shit , I might even back u... But to say that he can't say it... I disagree with. I'm sorry that we don't agree there. I believe every man has the right to voice their opinion, as long as they are willing to stand by it if and when the consequences come from those who don't like what they say
I'm going to address this not writing to you but broadly as I'm putting this issue to death right fucking now. This is for a few friends as well as judgemental asshats so don't take it personally but it reorients what I'm saying below.
Look at my post history, that was maybe the only sexual post I've ever made and I've been on and off forums since the late 1990s - decade off cause I couldn't waste my time with forum jerkoffs and apparently didn't learn my lesson. The entire meso forum is filled with vile shit. I think most source posts start off with pictures of GFs tits and other areas. Some people are flat out nasty, hell there are porn threads here and last I checked this place is about drugs. If there is some line of conduct, I'm so far inside it it's rediculous. If someone is on this forum...they need to check their own shit.
Secondly, I'm older, have kids including a daughter, widowed via suicide after a decade mental health battle upending everything (never cheated ever nor in other exclusive elationships), and got thrown back into single life after a rough time by most standards (not complaining, I handled it, just saying). I've spent more than enough of my life fixing and unfucking the messes made by others all over this world. I owe no one anything and certainly not any justification or explanation. I'll put my life and record against anyone's any day and this absolutely includes treatment of women and others. Heck, a good number of my friends are women and if I'm at a conference the husbands want their girls near me as they know I'll take care of them, make sure they get back safe and not allow anyone to fuck with them.
As for the older women...who really aren't that much older, and I didn't even bring this topic up...most all of them approached me. All were totally thrilled, consensual and into whatever we did (so don't throw any self righteous shit on me because no one wants you). All of them were treated great and had a blast. Dinners, events travel all on me - even for the wealthy women sitting in nice >5000ft houses. I dated several of them seriously where there was potential (my wife was older and many GFs so that's just how it's worked for me). Only one I ever dirted was a complete psycho, liar, fucked over my kids (which I hold as sacred in any relationship, theirs and mine), and wasted some of my life constantly trying to get back in...and I was dumb enough to try too so my fault. We were not exclusive at the time. She's stalked me and I've threatened her with LEO twice now. She was the one who brought up the mother/daughter thing once while drunk. Weirded me out as this was someone I was seriously dating...knowing everything later I have less than zero respect for her and she was probably serious (though her daughter was a quality human..so pretty sure that wouldn't have happened).
Now I dated/hung out with a broad spectrum. Of the few college girls...they picked me up originally (come up, ask me to dance, chat me up, hang on my arm etc...I never approached) or the athlete we had a great conversation randomly and she wanted to hang out more. I treated her with respect and like gold. She was gorgeous, tall, athletic, and borderline brilliant so had trouble connecting with guys her own age and would ask me why she'd be at parties and no guys would approach her...intimidating largely. We both had a blast. Super fun and great to talk to. We both saw other people...no future with that wide a range...and I told her that someday she'd absolutely find the right match (important that he treat her well) and we'd break it off so they could be exclusive and above all I wanted that for her because I needed to find something similar. While I envision a different life for my daughter...if she dated older and that man treated her like I did...I'd be good with that. I'll also add that I turned down multiple times my 23 year old super hot nanny that a female friend hired for me. Genuine attraction on both sides but she wanted something serious (saw I was a quality guy and good dad as we hung out some and we'd do vacations with the kids) and deserved that...and I'd certainly have done that and been thrilled (great quality girl who I respect as a person to this day and we keep in touch) but at that age she'd miss out on formative years and it wouldn't be fair. Plus I was newly widowed and my life was in turmoil and I couldn't in good conscience do that to her.
Current status monogamous for nearly a year, engaged recently, great girl. She and her daughters are moving in soon with my family.
So there's some context and maybe a bit more insight. I owe this nor anything to anyone but since I made a single post among friends and this entire place has instantly apeshitted itself with judgemental fucks who know jackshit jumping the shark, there you go and eat a dick...maybe don't judge people until you've walked in their shoes and if you are going to judge your own shit should be spotless because I'm solid by any standard and have lived my life beyond reproach for decades including taking actions and making hard decisions with broad repercussions to uphold those values - and this is largely where others have failed us and I have to fix it. Certainly I'm taking no shit from anyone who spends their life on internet drug forums GTFOH. I've worn out multiple pairs of shoes on behalf of others and frankly I'm tired and disappointed in the human population as a whole.
That is all. Friends, of that helped clarify a bit amid the current jerkoff shitshow great. Judgemental losers are now dismissed, never speak to me nor of me again. Fix your own shit. Not a bible quoter but someone decent said something about throwing stones. He probably had a point there.
