Why do I suck at dieting?

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Dude that is awesome, VERY well done on both fronts! Seems so many of us are highly addictive types and many of us get lucky to find something healthier to latch onto. Use of PEDs of course stretches the boundaries of healthy, but I’d say we are much better off in our quest for muscle growth and fat loss than we are on meth or drinking ourselves to oblivion
 
I had so much trouble sticking to a low calorie diet. I have tried to lose fat every wrong way possible. Cutting isn’t fun. You are hungry, you experience hunger pains, workout are not as good, and you can’t eat as much as you would like. Social life with friends and family can take a hit. It’s best to stick to your prepare meals and not drink alcohol. Yes you can hit your goals by eating out, drinking responsibly, and doing a IIFYM approach but for someone who struggles with fat loss it’s not a good idea
 
Have to first accept and expect these things when you start a cut. You have to get in the mindset that I should be hungry and a little tired before each meal. If you are not feeling these things most of the day you are eating too much and should feel guilty. At least that is my mind set. Embrace the hunger and the pain. The more of it you endure the more you learn how to cope with it. Results will come quick in the mirror. Use the results as motivation.
 
Not trying to waste anyones time.I am 42 . I am blessed with great genetics. I can pack on size , but when it comes to dieting I find it almost impossible. Now I am making a major life change. I am making a career change. I had owned a small bussness and my work .Could not have been more physical and I am moving into sales. What have some have you guys done to get serious and get out of the slump? Stats 42. 6ft 2in approx 18%bf

Dieting like exercising is a LEARNED behavior and at age 42
bad habits are difficult to change.

It starts by cooking your own meals, never eating in your car or on the run, and getting rid of all the prepackaged junk in your refrigerator.

Food is to be enjoyed at a dinner table, in an established restaurant, and never in front of a computer, in bed or while watching TV.

Wanna know how and why fat folk
remain fat? None of the guidelines I mentioned about eating right apply to them.
 
Dieting like exercising is a LEARNED behavior and at age 42
bad habits are difficult to change.

It starts by cooking your own meals, never eating in your car or on the run, and getting rid of all the prepackaged junk in your refrigerator.

Food is to be enjoyed at a dinner table, in an established restaurant, and never in front of a computer, in bed or while watching TV.

Wanna know how and why fat folk
remain fat? None of the guidelines I mentioned about eating right apply to them.
my wife and i meal prep and weigh out all of our portions. we use the my fitness pal app. very easy after learning the ropes. every sunday we pack (7) breakfts and (7) lunches

i'm confused on the whole caloric surplus to build muscle but you can build lean muscle on caloric deficit. idk. i stick with 3000 calories, 220-240g protein, 250g carbs non workout days, 400g carbs on workout days. fats from advocados mostly around 40-50g. i seem to be stuck at 213lbs. i train intense. always hungry. i'm natty. do i just eat more and screw the calorie counting?
 
my wife and i meal prep and weigh out all of our portions. we use the my fitness pal app. very easy after learning the ropes. every sunday we pack (7) breakfts and (7) lunches

i'm confused on the whole caloric surplus to build muscle but you can build lean muscle on caloric deficit. idk. i stick with 3000 calories, 220-240g protein, 250g carbs non workout days, 400g carbs on workout days. fats from advocados mostly around 40-50g. i seem to be stuck at 213lbs. i train intense. always hungry. i'm natty. do i just eat more and screw the calorie counting?

Not understanding your question and want to help you. Could you rephrase please?
 
oh, sorry.
my goal is to bulk up but i don't want to get fat. i have a good base of thickness under a layer of fat. i want to be strong also. i love deadlifting and squatting. when i was eating 4000+ calories a day i was getting bigger but i felt "heavy" or unhealthy.

i'd like to be in the years to come a solid 210-215lbs at 5'-11"
 
oh, sorry.
my goal is to bulk up but i don't want to get fat. i have a good base of thickness under a layer of fat. i want to be strong also. i love deadlifting and squatting. when i was eating 4000+ calories a day i was getting bigger but i felt "heavy" or unhealthy.

i'd like to be in the years to come a solid 210-215lbs at 5'-11"

The old “gain muscle and not get fat” fantasy for natural lifters. Especially if your natty it’s basically impossible to gain muscle and not gain some fat. You can minimize fat gain by slowly increasing your calories, sticking to clean food, and doing mini cuts to burn off excess water weight.
 
The old “gain muscle and not get fat” fantasy for natural lifters. Especially if your natty it’s basically impossible to gain muscle and not gain some fat. You can minimize fat gain by slowly increasing your calories, sticking to clean food, and doing mini cuts to burn off excess water weight.

Gaining muscle for an advanced natural lifter is very very difficult without adding extra body fat. You body (testosterone level) will only allow you to hold on to so much muscle at a given body fat percentage. More fat you hold, more muscle you can hold and vice versa. Dieting and macro control become even more important for you when you are trying to optimize your body composition. Body composition for an advanced naturally lifter is very very slow process. Maybe 1 lbs of muscle increase per year which will decrease every year after to only ounces of muscle gained.
 
The old “gain muscle and not get fat” fantasy for natural lifters. Especially if your natty it’s basically impossible to gain muscle and not gain some fat. You can minimize fat gain by slowly increasing your calories, sticking to clean food, and doing mini cuts to burn off excess water weight.
to be honest, being ripped with a extremely visible six pack and highly defined muscles isn't a major goal of mine. i think in the coming years if i jump on gear i'll reach for that goal. i just want to be thick. be strong and have that specific powerlifter strong look without the big gut. (fantasy world right?!) lol
i'll get there. i feel i have good genetics. i have a pretty good shape now and results are finally visible. (to be honest, i look really good in clothes. clothes off i have ok definition but theres that layer of fat covering my muscle.) stumped on how to burn this fat while keeping size.

my diet is the definition of clean. i haven't touched fast or fried food in over 5 years. same with soda or sugar drinks, i've been dairy free and egg free (from severe allergies) for 5 years. i gave up all meat products about 2 years ago for health reasons. so i do this vegan and i still am able to get pretty thick. my question is should i just stay around 3k a day with the proper macros or increase to 4k?
 
my wife and i meal prep and weigh out all of our portions. we use the my fitness pal app. very easy after learning the ropes. every sunday we pack (7) breakfts and (7) lunches

i'm confused on the whole caloric surplus to build muscle but you can build lean muscle on caloric deficit. idk. i stick with 3000 calories, 220-240g protein, 250g carbs non workout days, 400g carbs on workout days. fats from advocados mostly around 40-50g. i seem to be stuck at 213lbs. i train intense. always hungry. i'm natty. do i just eat more and screw the calorie counting?

For many it’s not WHAT they eat but how MUCH they eat, and those who are overweight continue to eat in spite of not being hungry.

Of course calories matter bc it’s an established medical fact weight loss will only occur if caloric expenditure exceeds caloric intake.

And homemade food cooked by others is often fat laden.

I’d suggest you have a nutritionist
or dietician review the meals your
wife is cooking.

Good luck
 
to be honest, being ripped with a extremely visible six pack and highly defined muscles isn't a major goal of mine. i think in the coming years if i jump on gear i'll reach for that goal. i just want to be thick. be strong and have that specific powerlifter strong look without the big gut. (fantasy world right?!) lol
i'll get there. i feel i have good genetics. i have a pretty good shape now and results are finally visible. (to be honest, i look really good in clothes. clothes off i have ok definition but theres that layer of fat covering my muscle.) stumped on how to burn this fat while keeping size.

my diet is the definition of clean. i haven't touched fast or fried food in over 5 years. same with soda or sugar drinks, i've been dairy free and egg free (from severe allergies) for 5 years. i gave up all meat products about 2 years ago for health reasons. so i do this vegan and i still am able to get pretty thick. my question is should i just stay around 3k a day with the proper macros or increase to 4k?

If you want to add more muscle and have plateaued then you need to increase your calories. Start with 200 extra calorie a day from carbs. Add an extra cup of rice to one of your meals. See how your weight changes over 1-2 weeks. If not satisfied add another 8 oz of potato to your daily meals. Keep this going. If you like the changes don’t add more food. You may start to put on more fat than you would like. Then it’s time to pull back some on the food and reconsider your goals.....maybe it’s time for a cut or maybe you want to maintain.
 
Dude that is awesome, VERY well done on both fronts! Seems so many of us are highly addictive types and many of us get lucky to find something healthier to latch onto. Use of PEDs of course stretches the boundaries of healthy, but I’d say we are much better off in our quest for muscle growth and fat loss than we are on meth or drinking ourselves to oblivion

While I tend to agree due diligence with a focus on moderation and reasonably achievable goals must remain a focal point of PED use, less
those with addictive personalties fall into the trap of gains at any cost.

And IME the latter often involves the use of other illicit and/or scheduled substances, esp in older lifters whom are unable to admit a 45 year old will find it much more difficult to reach the same goals as those younger competitors

jim
 
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Food is to be enjoyed at a dinner table, in an established restaurant, and never in front of a computer, in bed or while watching TV.
Your severely out of touch with reality.
This is a blanket statement if I ever read one.
We all live different lives and metabolize food differently, lol not everyone needs this strict stucture to look good and live a happy healthy life. Shit does your mom still make you finish your peas before you leave the dinner table?
 
I have eaten 6 clean meals per day for the last 4 years or so. I will wake up at 4 AM if I have too, to make sure i have my food for the day. I eat every 3 hours, make breakfast fresh every morning, bring 3 meals to work, train, and eat two more times before bed. I’ve left work or had to take the day off because I left my meals at home. I am a sick man but I love it. So when I hear people talk about diet I assume everyone preps there meals like me and are on point. Depending on cutting, maintenance, or bulk I will eat a little junk here and there and go out with friends. But 90% of the time it’s all planned meals. When I am cutting for a contest I am 100% on point. That is when it’s the hardest. I hate dieting (reducing calories) because I love to eat but it’s part of the lifestyle. It’s tough.
 
While I tend to agree due diligence with a focus on moderation and reasonably achievable goals must remain a focal point of PED use, less
those with addictive personalties fall into the trap of gains at any cost.

And IME the latter often involves the use of other illicit and/or scheduled substances, esp in older lifters whom are unable to admit a 45 year old will find it much more difficult to reach the same goals as those younger competitors

jim

Good points I need to be mindful of as I’m 41 and need to keep my goals in check with reality.
 
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