Weatherlite said:
Swing, the reference to a man having sex with a married woman and getting away with it wasn't about a concubine...it was about a captive. From what I have read he could opt to have sex with her if he wanted because she was his property as a captive. That is where the woman being married and giving consent/not giving consent (rape) issue came into play. It really seems like no matter what she is screwed. (no pun intended)
Took me around an hour to go through this thread and it was well worth it.
A man can't have sex with a captive, this is not allowed in Islam. The confusion comes from the fact that in the past, when a country/army wins war, they usually take the young males and the females of the other country/army as slaves ("molk yameen" in Arabic). It is allowed in Islam (and many other religions for that matter) for a man to have sex with his female slave.
Having said the above, in modern days countries don't take slaves anymore (muslim countries and others), and thus, the above is not applicable anymore.
And about being homosexual and having sex with another male, this is not allowed in Islam, whether you're young/not married or not is irrelevant.
For the stoning, there's no distinction, in the prophet's time there were men and women who were stoned to death. However, in order for someone to be stoned/lashed he/she needs to have significant proof against them (I will not go into the details of what the proof needs to be, but I will gladly do if someone is interested). If you read about early Islam (the days of the prophet) all the people who were stoned (men and women) came forward and asked to be stoned according to history.
Islam DOES NOT encourage someone who did this sin to come forward, but instead, it encourages him/her to just repent and pray to go that he forgives him/her.
A couple of stories to shed some light on the subject (I left some details to make them shorter):
1- A guy came to the prophet and said that he has sinned and slept with a woman although he is married. The prophet turned his head away to the other direction. The man went to the other direction as to face him again and said the same thing about what he did. The prophet turned to the other direction. The man went a third time and said the same thing. The prophet asked the people around him whether the man was known to have mental problems, and they said no. He then asked the man to go and come on another day, and some people to go and talk to more people who knew him and verify that he was not mentally ill (notice all the things the prophet tried to do so the man doesn't get stoned). The following day the man came again and said the same thing, and it was then that he got stoned.
2- A woman came to the prophet and said that she has sinned and slept with a man although she was married, and that she was pregnant. He asked her to go and not come back before she dlivers the baby. She then came after a few months with the baby. The prophet then asked that she leaves and never come back before the baby is old enough so he doesn't need her milk anymore and can eat. After two years, she came back with the baby walking with her, his one hand holding her hand, and in the other he had a piece of bread (showing that he could eat), and it was then that she got stoned. Notice how in all the three years she still came back everytime, no one asked her to come forward and it was like the prophet wanted her to see her child and out of love for him not come back, yet, she still came back.
A note not directly related to this discussion, but its worth mentioning nontheless, is that when Islam came it encouraged freeing slaves heavily, and the last words of the prophet when he was dying were in the meaning of "take good care of your prayers/praying and what you own [as slaves]". He said it several times before he passed away.
Many muslims in the early days of Islam would try and get closer to god by freeing slaves they own because this was a good deed in islam. In fact, many "kaffarats" (making amends) in Islam are freeing slaves. If you look at how a person redeems himself in many situations in Islam, you will see that he needs to free a slave(s) in order for him to be redeemed.
And for the treatment of women, I know for a fact that Angel - my wife - is very happy with me, she always tells me that if all men were like me there would be no divorce anymore. How do i treat her?, I try and lookup the prophet's history in dealing with his wives. I encourage you to read it (from credible sources and not those hate sites).
My honest opinion in the whole west/muslims matter is that us - Muslims in general and muslims in the middle east in particular - and the rest of the people in the west will never reach peace again. I've always heard about us "not saying enough"... "not showing that we condemn these acts"... and to be honest; I don't know what needs to be said and done more that what have already been said and done. The fact that everyone I know has said many times, in many occasions that we do condemn these acts is proof of the matter. If only there was a quantitive way to measure "saying enough". I think this conflict will go on for decades, I've come to peace with the idea that one day I might have to fight my friends and many people I have respected for a reason both me and them will never really understand. Maybe I'm being pissmistic, but I really don't see a way out of this anymore.
-OT