Turning into a sissy

[Sensational]

I just recently broke up with the gf of almost three years. I find myself listening to alot of dashboard confessional lately too. I don't have much drive for school or lifting either, I am just kind of floating along. I guess I am hoping one of my brothers here could pop this balloon I am riding so I can feel normal again~Sensational

 

[big louie]

not really sure if there is a way to pop the balloon but i can promise you you will get over it bro,,, trust me it just takes time.. Go out with your bro's and have some fun there are tons of chicks out there my friend...

 

[Grizzly]

I know the feeling. You can do a few different things. First, you can use your new found singleness to inspire you to work harder at the gym so that you can find a newer and hotter model than the old one.

Or, you can spend the next month getting really fucked up and sleeping with any random slut that is goodly enough to open her legs for you.

Both options should work very well. One is more productive, but the other is more fun. Whichever you choose, have fun with it.

 

[Sensational]

I know the feeling. You can do a few different things. First, you can use your new found singleness to inspire you to work harder at the gym so that you can find a newer and hotter model than the old one.

Or, you can spend the next month getting really fucked up and sleeping with any random slut that is goodly enough to open her legs for you.

Both options should work very well. One is more productive, but the other is more fun. Whichever you choose, have fun with it.

Well, my manager wants me...lol, maybe I can hit it and use her to get me what I want at work. And BTW time sucks, because it always goes too slowly~Sensational

 

[Bob Smith]

Sorry to hear about the change, Sens. Its a tough situation to be in and not really something that any of us can get you out of. The cliche of "time heals all wounds" is bullshit, but time does make it easier to deal with. It could possibly affect your eating, training, desire to do things you normally enjoy doing. Its a short-term depression. You'll be ok and move on, but it'll take a little while. I feel for ya, bro, Ive gone through it.

 

[Sensational]

Sorry to hear about the change, Sens. Its a tough situation to be in and not really something that any of us can get you out of. The cliche of "time heals all wounds" is bullshit, but time does make it easier to deal with. It could possibly affect your eating, training, desire to do things you normally enjoy doing. Its a short-term depression. You'll be ok and move on, but it'll take a little while. I feel for ya, bro, Ive gone through it.

It does feel like a little depression...oh well, that is the price to pay for falling for a girl. Hell I will get out of it eventually, I just needed some support, and thank you to all who gave replies. Love hurts~Sensational

 

[MANWHORE]

I got dumped a few times in the past only to end up with the love of my life who is now my wife. I felt bad at the time,but all of my past girlfriends together don't compair to my wife. I took too long to write this,i forgot what you asked Cheer up bro,there are many more cows in the heard.OK so some are mad,but alot of the meat is still good. What i am trying to say is you'll be fine. It's good to experience this kind of stuff,it's makes you stronger. Why did you break up? if you dont mind me asking and if you didn't already answer.let me read this damn thread before i say more

 

[Phreezer]

Hey sens... I know how you feel bro, Even though everyone says,, you'll get over it.. blah blah blah.. You're better off .. blah blah blah... You'll find better..blah blah blah..even though all those statements are true. it doesn't lesson the fact that it still hurts.. I'm sorry to hear you're going through a rough time right now.. and the best advice that I can give you is this... The best way to get over the old Chick, is to immediatly go out and get under a new one

Take care buddy!

Phreezer

 

[MANWHORE]

Yeah do what Grizzly says and get some of that Coke Whore Ass

 

[armsports]

I've gone through a very similar situation recently and prayer helped me out a lot but that might not be up your alley (for what it's worth God is more than willing to share this burden if you just let Him). On a different level, I find it is a good idea to stay busy because if you're like me you tend to dwell on it in your free time. Put yourself in social situations where you can be encouraged or at least distracted, and yes getting your self esteem built up with some attractive women helps, if only in the short term. At some point you will need to face this and get closure, but only you know for sure when that will be. And as mentioned, we've all been there and all survived so yes, you probably will be a better and wiser person when all is said and done. Good luck.

 

[Sensational]

Although I don't talk about it much, I am a christian. I fell away from God when my dad was addicted to narcotics, and he goes to church every week and professes strong faith. I know that it is not God's fault that my dad got addicted, but its an association I made. Most people, especially BS won't believe I am a christian because of my liberal views, but I guess I am just a walking contradiction. I also know that addiction is a disease and I shouldn't blame my dad, but I can't stop thinking about how he still had a choice. Maybe bro, maybe.

I will get through this, and it really helps to have you guys here helping me out. Also, thanks phreezer for the kind words bro. We broke up because I wasn't completely honest with her. It sucks, but it is my fault really. I should have been more honest with her about my friends, namely the female ones. I wasn't unfaithful per se, but I made her distrust me and it tore us apart. Trust is so important in a relationship, but you only seem to realize it when there is distrust there. Honesty is my mantra now, it will accompany integrity, and hopefully I will become a better more complete person as a result. Thanks bros~Sensational

 

[Bob Smith]

Being a liberal doesnt automatically exclude you from being a Christian. Maybe its a little more rare as compared to the conservative side, but thats not really the point. Its good to hear that you are a Christian. In anyones walk with God, we have times of strong faith and times where we dont even think we're walking the same path. Remember that as humans, we have free will. Along with the choice to do good, we also have the ability to choose evil. From the sounds of it, your dad chose the evil path for a while. We all make mistakes, some just make bigger mistakes than other people do. Do you have a church that you attend regularly? Do you get involved or just show up on Sunday for an hour? If your church is anything like mine, there is a huge support network of people willing to help you out, whether it be with your current personal situation, with questions about your faith, or anything else. Use the resources that are available to you. And dont be afraid to PM me if you need anything.

 

[thick]

great advice above from the fellow guys. I will just say use her as motivation. Now is the time to decide to better yourself or screw yourself. It's your decision. Train harder , eat better, and become a better person as a result of this. my brother is going through a similar situation and really it is all up to him. he can sit around and sulk and stay a fat ass or he can use this as motivation to change his life for the better. it is up to him/you. good luck

 

[hercules]

Bob Smith I don't believe I could have said it better. God knows I'm not perfect but Jesus's blood covers my sins. You don't have to go to church but it will help you grow in Christ.

 

[joe shmoe]

sens...take 2 weeks off from everything. get the grief period over with. then let the grief turn into a bit of anger and motivation. anger is usually good for working out . after the 2 weeks, force yourself to re-dedicating yourself to the sport that you love. make yourself better and stronger.

the break-up is just another step in life. it happens to all of us. and to agree with phreezer, blah blah blah, and then you'll blah blah blah. so blah blah, and blah blah, then you could blah blah blah blah .

have a nice blah blah

 

[Sensational]

I don't really want to take two weeks off, I really don't have that kind of time. However, I get your point Joe, and I will buckle down and attack bodybuilding with a vengeance. Why the hell not?

Regarding my church BS, I am a backseat baptist lol. I have not gone to my old church in a very long time, and it had that kind of support net. Thanks to all who gave me good advice~Sensational

 

[joebuff]

I feel for ya' bro.

Hey Sensational,

You and I have never talked before,but just wanted to know I feel for you bro. I went thru a similar situation about 6 months ago...still not completely over it but it gets better every day. Manwhore's post where he met his wife reminds me of the Garth Brooks song "unanswered prayers". .."The dance" is a good one also,even though I'm really not into country music these helped me when I needed it. Hang in there bro. Take care,and if I can be of help just email me.

Joe

 

[Bob Smith]

Both of those are great songs. He has so many that are relative to real life. My fav is definitely The River."

 

[Sensational]

Garth makes good music! Thanks for the recommendation bro!