Titanium Gear Industries (domestic source)

[The ole man]

So you fucking adrenaline junkies are probably not the right ppl to ask, but here goes.
My girlfriend and me been together for about a month. She informed me today that many months ago one of her male friends asked her to go to a Sunday get together at his family’s.
She has spoke about this friendship with him a few times and that they have never been together at all.
I believe her and she hasn’t gave me any reasons to not trust. She is very passionate with me every time we are together. I have no reasons to think it’s more than just a family gathering.
But me I don’t like it much. I’m just not cool about shit like that. But I can be slightly jealous at times and have been that way most of my life.
I don’t want to come off as a jealous smuck.
What’s your guys thoughts???

 

[TitaniumGear (TGI)]

So you fucking adrenaline junkies are probably not the right ppl to ask, but here goes.
My girlfriend and me been together for about a month. She informed me today that many months ago one of her male friends asked her to go to a Sunday get together at his family’s.
She has spoke about this friendship with him a few times and that they have never been together at all.
I believe her and she hasn’t gave me any reasons to not trust. She is very passionate with me every time we are together. I have no reasons to think it’s more than just a family gathering.
But me I don’t like it much. I’m just not cool about shit like that. But I can be slightly jealous at times and have been that way most of my life.
I don’t want to come off as a jealous smuck.
What’s your guys thoughts???

If she cares about your feelings and KNOWS about them she won't go.

 

[MisterSuperGod]

So you fucking adrenaline junkies are probably not the right ppl to ask, but here goes.
My girlfriend and me been together for about a month. She informed me today that many months ago one of her male friends asked her to go to a Sunday get together at his family’s.
She has spoke about this friendship with him a few times and that they have never been together at all.
I believe her and she hasn’t gave me any reasons to not trust. She is very passionate with me every time we are together. I have no reasons to think it’s more than just a family gathering.
But me I don’t like it much. I’m just not cool about shit like that. But I can be slightly jealous at times and have been that way most of my life.
I don’t want to come off as a jealous smuck.
What’s your guys thoughts???

If you trust her and your feelz for one another are legitimate, then i don't think you have anything to worry about. Don't let -what if- scenarios get into your head. They'll make you crazy.

 

[MisterSuperGod]

If she cares about your feelings and KNOWS about them she won't go.

This was a prior commitment. Just because there's a new sheriff in town doesn't mean she shouldn't stick to her word.

It's all about trust there, brew jockey.

 

[DOMS4DAYS]

So you fucking adrenaline junkies are probably not the right ppl to ask, but here goes.
My girlfriend and me been together for about a month. She informed me today that many months ago one of her male friends asked her to go to a Sunday get together at his family’s.
She has spoke about this friendship with him a few times and that they have never been together at all.
I believe her and she hasn’t gave me any reasons to not trust. She is very passionate with me every time we are together. I have no reasons to think it’s more than just a family gathering.
But me I don’t like it much. I’m just not cool about shit like that. But I can be slightly jealous at times and have been that way most of my life.
I don’t want to come off as a jealous smuck.
What’s your guys thoughts???

Would be a no for me. I don’t believe anything good can come with a “friend” of the opposite sex if you’re in a relationship you’re trying to make last. Wife and I made that agreement long ago. What happens when both get a little tipsy or feeling an urge to mess around? Or one tries to comfort the other through a difficult situation and in that some passion evolves. Just don’t see any good scenarios possible. That’s just my two cents.

 

[QueenBee]

So you fucking adrenaline junkies are probably not the right ppl to ask, but here goes.
My girlfriend and me been together for about a month. She informed me today that many months ago one of her male friends asked her to go to a Sunday get together at his family’s.
She has spoke about this friendship with him a few times and that they have never been together at all.
I believe her and she hasn’t gave me any reasons to not trust. She is very passionate with me every time we are together. I have no reasons to think it’s more than just a family gathering.
But me I don’t like it much. I’m just not cool about shit like that. But I can be slightly jealous at times and have been that way most of my life.
I don’t want to come off as a jealous smuck.
What’s your guys thoughts???

Why does that guy want a taken girl to go to his "family" get together? I agree with TGI or you going with her. You guys are a team, a unit...
I would probably feel the same way if I were in your situation.

 

[The ole man]

Keep the opinions coming. I need as many perspectives as possible.
Some good answers so far.
Keep em coming.

 

[SomeRandoGuy]

I missed the prior commitment part so I’m more conflicted. You don’t want advice from me anyway. I’m a perfect example of what not to do.

 

[Wrath]

If she cares about your feelings and KNOWS about them she won't go.

^^ This....

Given how you described yourself, even if you trust her and let it fly...come the day of, the what if's game could drive you bananas.

 

[Blange89]

I think the "friend" may have feelings for her if he wants the her around his family. And does he know she in a relationship?

 

[QueenBee]

You're the commitment now. All prior commitments are now void.

 

[The ole man]

Would be a no for me. I don’t believe anything good can come with a “friend” of the opposite sex if you’re in a relationship you’re trying to make last. Wife and I made that agreement long ago. What happens when both get a little tipsy or feeling an urge to mess around? Or one tries to comfort the other through a difficult situation and in that some passion evolves. Just don’t see any good scenarios possible. That’s just my two cents.

Well we both sober and clean and have been for multiple years. He also is clean and sober and has been for many years. That’s how they know each other.
But very valid points.
That’s why I’m asking for multiple opinions.

 

[Wrath]

Well we both sober and clean and have been for multiple years. He also is clean and sober and has been for many years. That’s how they know each other.
But very valid points.
That’s why I’m asking for multiple opinions.

Tough one man. All the points above are valid. It would be a no for me.... but i would hope that she would get there first.

 

[The ole man]

I think the "friend" may have feelings for her if he wants the her around his family. And does he know she in a relationship?

Yes. She has said she told him.

 

[The ole man]

Tough one man. All the points above are valid. It would be a no for me.... but i would hope that she would get there first.

This is where I’m at with it too.
Ok let’s talk about what I should say to her.
Cmon Kim I’ve never needed your point of view so much as today.

 

[Mac11wildcat]

To me, what do you gain by interfering?

If anything were to happen is your resistance being the thing stopping it really comforting? If she’s with you and an adult she’ll handle it fine. I doubt this is the first or last time, as a single (unmarried) female, she’ll be in a position where a “friend” has interest in her.

Just something I don’t find much concern in; either she’s with you and it’s a non-issue or she’s contemplating not being with you and then it becomes a different non-issue.

 

[MisterSuperGod]

This is where I’m at with it too.
Ok let’s talk about what I should say to her.
Cmon Kim I’ve never needed your point of view so much as today.

Out of curiosity, have either of you pulled out the big guns yet?
No, not the anatomical guns, the "i love you" guns.

 

[QueenBee]

This is where I’m at with it too.
Ok let’s talk about what I should say to her.
Cmon Kim I’ve never needed your point of view so much as today.

I don't think she should go. His wanting her to go shows me that he wants more with her.

 

[Wrath]

Yes. She has said she told him.

That a good start and credit to her. Its the dude i wonder about. Does he respect you and the relationship? I know a lot of dudes that don't. I deal with this all the time with guys hitting on my girl....

As for how to broach it. I would just be honest and talk about it. Seems like you two have a good relationship. Shouldn't break up the house..

 

[TX_Hempknight]

So you fucking adrenaline junkies are probably not the right ppl to ask, but here goes.
My girlfriend and me been together for about a month. She informed me today that many months ago one of her male friends asked her to go to a Sunday get together at his family’s.
She has spoke about this friendship with him a few times and that they have never been together at all.
I believe her and she hasn’t gave me any reasons to not trust. She is very passionate with me every time we are together. I have no reasons to think it’s more than just a family gathering.
But me I don’t like it much. I’m just not cool about shit like that. But I can be slightly jealous at times and have been that way most of my life.
I don’t want to come off as a jealous smuck.
What’s your guys thoughts???

If you cant go, its a no. Her friends shall be your friends too, unless hes looking to dick her down.