Serious question.....

[big rob]

Okay, here is the deal. This is purely hypothetical mind you.....

Lets say that some fucking 18 year old kid was pissed off at you and having no balls at all, he would rather leave you messages threatening you then actually come to some sort of resolution. Whenever you talked on the phone, all was worked out but then you got bullshit messages again a day later. Then the little fucker vandalized your house. If you knew where you could find him, would you go get him??? Be honest and think about the reprocussions that could arise.

Just curious for some input from you guys......

 

[esco]

to be honest, even though i would love to teach the kid a lesson ... it wouldn't be worth risking the trouble that could befall you. unless you get back at him in a clever way. just my .02

btw-what ever happened to your business idea?

 

[Fast Food]

Okay, here is the deal. This is purely hypothetical mind you.....

Lets say that some fucking 18 year old kid was pissed off at you and having no balls at all, he would rather leave you messages threatening you then actually come to some sort of resolution. Whenever you talked on the phone, all was worked out but then you got bullshit messages again a day later. Then the little fucker vandalized your house. If you knew where you could find him, would you go get him??? Be honest and think about the reprocussions that could arise.

Just curious for some input from you guys......

i would find a way to scare the shit out of him.... or just fuck his girlfriend AGAIN

 

[thick]

thats a tough one. IMO you have to do something to him. Bad thing is that he isnt worth getting in trouble for. Tough call. You have any young friends that could take care of him?

 

[joe shmoe]

if you have any proof...and assuming nothing illegal has taken place between you two...just call the cops.

i'd love to kick the snot out of someone like that, but getting popped for assault just isnt worth it.

have a nice day

 

[big rob]

Already thought of that. However, if the little fuck thinks or knows it is coming from me, what would stop him from fuckin up my car, house etc... It's a tough call.

 

[big rob]

The cops don't do a fucking thing. I would have to lie and say I saw him do it. As far as anything illegal, helping others is actually what I do, it's a long story. However, when the kid showed that he had no intention of doing the right thing, I basically threw him out. Also a long story. Some of you know what I do and I don't feel like going into it again. There are a few people on this board that I really do not want knowing any info about me. For those of you that want to know, PM me. Anyway, it's a hard call.....

 

[Neodavid]

If you talked on the phone, maybe you can call him again and tell him you realize obviously it wasn't really resolved, and ask him what it is that's bothering him.

Turning the cheek to give a kid who's obviously young and confused, a chance to see you really are an okay guy.

My guess is he still has some excuse he thinks is valid to judge you (there isn't), but then there is no excuse for you to judge him either, to get back at him, only to discern he is hurting, without love and intimacy in his life.

When things like this happen, it helps to have faith in God in that everything then has a purpose. Interruptions in life are no longer interruptions but opportunities for change and growth.

Most people don't want to see it that way though, because it means you can't be selfish and hold on to what you have, you have to give of your time and money a lot...

But the secret to all of that is, the universe is set up to give you what you give out. Some call it Karma, whatever... give out love and forgiveness, tenderness and kindness, and eventually it starts coming back to you, often in very weird ways.

There is an emotional turbulance still going on in this kid. He may have chosen you as an unconsious outlet, because you DID resolve an issue once. Often people cause others problems when those people SOLVE their problems... even if under duress.

Eventually this can be discussed.

Okay, here is the deal. This is purely hypothetical mind you.....

Lets say that some fucking 18 year old kid was pissed off at you and having no balls at all, he would rather leave you messages threatening you then actually come to some sort of resolution. Whenever you talked on the phone, all was worked out but then you got bullshit messages again a day later. Then the little fucker vandalized your house. If you knew where you could find him, would you go get him??? Be honest and think about the reprocussions that could arise.

Just curious for some input from you guys......

 

[esco]

have a young friend do it, like stated above ... but try and figure out where the kid is going to be and have it staged as some kid just picking a fight with him. if not that, you need to play it down and wait for a while til all is gone and forgotten and then have it dealt with. Tough-Love

 

[thick]

thats the biggest problem. You almost have to let it go and than nail his ass a year or two from now. he will probably meet up with someone who gets him anyways by than.

Already thought of that. However, if the little fuck thinks or knows it is coming from me, what would stop him from fuckin up my car, house etc... It's a tough call.

 

[pumppumppuk]

living next to the mississippi river we have a saying

"nothing a 55gal drum and a fishing trip cant fix."



PPP

 

[big rob]

What fucking kills me is this..... IF I knew that this would be the end, I would just let it go. However, I have no way of knowing that he will not just keep on doing this shit over and over because he thinks it's funny and I will never get him. This shit costs me money every time it happens. His problem is that he has never had to deal with the consequences of his actions. He bragged about doing this shit before......

As far as my trying to help him david, thats what I tried and did for quite a while. However, when helping him put several others progress in jeapordy, it had to stop. Continuing to help him while hurting others is not good either.

He is basically mad because I told him that I legally cannot give him back a tiny ass keg of beer and that his dad needed to come get it.

 

[esco]

i hate it when kids mistake niceness for weakness! have you talked to the kids dad? and last resort, maybe spring for some surveillance cameras just to get him on tape doing anything to have as leverage. you needs omething to hold over his head bro.

 

[big rob]

Yeah, the cameras are my next move. I am trying to figure out which ones to get. Motion activated, night vision etc.....

I was going to call his dad but that would once again give him an excuse to do something stupid again..... Hard call huh......

 

[esco]

is his dad the type to discipline his kid or does the kid walk over him?

i would get night vision and just have them place on key focal points ... car, house, etc. all you need is one good take of him.

 

[Neodavid]

Yeah, that sucks...

I don't think any of us is going to have the answer for that one, but we can sure give you ideas and emotional support so you don't go bitch slap the little fucker.

Did I say that?

(grin)

Okay, so he feels violated... you took something of his in his mind.

Maybe you could pay him the cash and tell him it's your only legal way of making things even.

I'd ask him to fix whatever he broke or took though, out of mutual respect.

I had a kid do that to me for a while too, and in my case it was one of those out of the blue answers. I cought him downtown with his buddies riding their bikes around, and I rode right up to them (I was going Mt. Biking) out of the blue, and got 2 inches from his face in front of his buddies.

"Well here I am, no longer at a distance... what do you have to say now, smartass?"

He swallowed hard, and couldn't think of anything to say, so I said, "That's what I thought".

As I was riding off of course, he yells I'm a pussy or something, but I got to look back over my shoulder and say, "Too late now, your friends there already know your a coward."

Never heard from him again, but not sure that was the answer, he may just have moved away! (grin)

Relationship is the only way to go... but if they ain't willing, that's when you gotta get tough... too bad man..

Well, x10.com sells some great camera's for cheap that only record motion...

What fucking kills me is this..... IF I knew that this would be the end, I would just let it go. However, I have no way of knowing that he will not just keep on doing this shit over and over because he thinks it's funny and I will never get him. This shit costs me money every time it happens. His problem is that he has never had to deal with the consequences of his actions. He bragged about doing this shit before......

As far as my trying to help him david, thats what I tried and did for quite a while. However, when helping him put several others progress in jeapordy, it had to stop. Continuing to help him while hurting others is not good either.

He is basically mad because I told him that I legally cannot give him back a tiny ass keg of beer and that his dad needed to come get it.

 

[latinpride1]

he is 18 so if you did woop his ass, but did it in way that looks like you two just had a blow out, then everything should be cool....unless you use a bat or something, or pound him really bad, most cops will try to sort it out on the spot.....but the right thing to do is catch him in the act, video,. or a picture...if you do that, tell him that you have him on tape....telling his father wont mean much because hes 18, so it wouldnt be his dads problem anyway....if that doesnt make him stop his b/s, then bring the cops into it...sometimes you need to really show them that you are far from bullshiting to get them to fking with you....but the bottom line is hes 18, an adult, so he needs to be treated as such.....jmho.....LP

 

[big louie]

i have similar situation with some puke neighbors bastards, fucking renters... I have a buddy that does surveillance cams and stuff, we caught some kids in his house - He showed the local PD and one of the kids was the cops son, fucking sweet!

I'm in the process of instaling the cams now..

PM and give me the full scoop..

 

[esco]

very good points ... he is responsible for his own actions and if you do catch him trespassing you could just pull him threw your front door and say outta self defense he trespassed and you defended your self and home.

he is 18 so if you did woop his ass, but did it in way that looks like you two just had a blow out, then everything should be cool....unless you use a bat or something, or pound him really bad, most cops will try to sort it out on the spot.....but the right thing to do is catch him in the act, video,. or a picture...if you do that, tell him that you have him on tape....telling his father wont mean much because hes 18, so it wouldnt be his dads problem anyway....if that doesnt make him stop his b/s, then bring the cops into it...sometimes you need to really show them that you are far from bullshiting to get them to fking with you....but the bottom line is hes 18, an adult, so he needs to be treated as such.....jmho.....LP

 

[big louie]

he is 18 so if you did woop his ass, but did it in way that looks like you two just had a blow out, then everything should be cool....unless you use a bat or something, or pound him really bad, most cops will try to sort it out on the spot.....but the right thing to do is catch him in the act, video,. or a picture...if you do that, tell him that you have him on tape....telling his father wont mean much because hes 18, so it wouldnt be his dads problem anyway....if that doesnt make him stop his b/s, then bring the cops into it...sometimes you need to really show them that you are far from bullshiting to get them to fking with you....but the bottom line is hes 18, an adult, so he needs to be treated as such.....jmho.....LP

Rob you don't need to be doing that, you know how the justice system works, right or wrong you would get fucked over.. If you do it be steath about it - actually the cameras are kinda cool..