I’m 42 and have been in this game since I was a teenager. There is a big psychological fuck that makes it harder now than it used to be. First of all, it’s not new anymore. When I was younger it wasn’t like I had eating a million eggs every single morning over the years (not that it didn’t get old back then either, just much older now!)
When I was competing I would see myself get into the kind of condition that seemed damn near impossible to accomplish with too many responsibilities and a family, but I didn’t have that back then. So now, I look back and think to myself ,”damn dude, how you gonna do that again with everything you got going on now compared to when it was just you to take care of?” The problem with this is that it creates self doubt. That self doubt is what tells us it’s ok to fuck up and eat shit.
And last, just like I used to go the distance for bodybuilding because it was something I loved, I now have a wife and kids and sometimes I’d prefer to go the distance for them over just the gym. Dieting makes you moody, plain and simple. Dieting hard enough to get into single digit bodyfat makes you a fucking zombie, you’re physically present with your family but you really AREN’T ALL THERE.
You aren’t alone, it’s much harder for me now also. But if there is one thing I can tell you to motivate you it’s that it feels damn good when your kids ask you to do something rather than go off with their friends and wouldn’t think twice about chilling with dad because he’s nothing but an incapable fat fuck! Use that as your motivation but at the same time, don’t beat yourself up too bad over it. Just never stop trying