Dealing with Ex's BD. He weak and soft. WWJD

[RedXXSouth]

Ill try to relay the convoluted nature and irregular nature of my situation without bias to myself. So, i was married and my wife and I had a conflict we could not resolve. I told her i was going to leave her. She didnt take me at my word. A few months later i did. About 3 weeks before i left her by chance i met a girl. She was 10 years younger than me. We instantly clicked way too deep. We didnt have sex until about 7 days before I left my wife though. I alr3ady had a plan put together to leave my wife to secure my assets.
Anyway, wife didnt want to accept at first. Then tried to hurt me then hurt the girl. She tried to make her lose custody of her kid. She attacked me and because she threatened my freedom, my kids, the girl and her kids, I let the cops take her. She out the picture. But the girls BD was in the background crying and getting heart broken.
They werent together, not married and she was seeing other people but living with him. A technical cuckold situation and he a whole ass bitch for letting her do thst to him. Anyway, he was telling her he was gonna kill me, whoop my ass the regular type shit. But he aint know i was. He didnt know I was a big ass gangster, trained, and twice his size. He couldnt hold that same energy once he saw me and punked out. But I'm taking care of his kid most of the time now. He called the cops on me becauee i called him a bitch. Idk what to do with people that wont stand up and fight or are just outright cowards. Prior he was doing the shit like bawling crying ans breaking her phone, trying to hold her door so she couldnt leave, breaking into her room yelling and crying, talking about killing himself. Now that he has to accept she mine and the kid is hers he is trying to use the kid to protect himself and shift the narrative to "good dad" when that wasnt his priorities before.
I know I can seem like the asshole in this and in some terms i am. But without all the context i hope.you will take my word for it that i did what was right for everyone even the BD and ex wife. He was being drained having to look at her after she had just got fucked down by me.
Anyway how do I deal with a bitch ass snitch that calls cops and wont have a conversation?

 

[Cereal masturbator]

Leave before you get arrested, you got your own stuff to worry about, best case - girl loves you but comes with baggage. Best case - she met a big dude and decided that was her ticket out of stupid ex.

Make love to her (moderator approval change) and leave, her problems aren’t yourse to solve

 

[Cereal masturbator]

Sounds like you’re the big scary babysitter that’s she’s ended up with for free brother, fixing her problems, doing shit round the house, playing daddy day care all the while putting you in the middle of a feud that ain’t even yours. Guy might be smaller than you be depending where you are that don’t mean anything if he turns up and shoots you.

You must be outside of your mind accepting a new woman and this level of baggage, she’s younger, attractive, probably a lot of fun, that will fade quickly brother, go and have some fun of your own. you’re recently divorced

 

[BigDadd7]

Sounds like two cheaters found the chaos they deserve. No offense.

 

[HeatherSwanson]

Ill try to relay the convoluted nature and irregular nature of my situation without bias to myself. So, i was married and my wife and I had a conflict we could not resolve. I told her i was going to leave her. She didnt take me at my word. A few months later i did. About 3 weeks before i left her by chance i met a girl. She was 10 years younger than me. We instantly clicked way too deep. We didnt have sex until about 7 days before I left my wife though. I alr3ady had a plan put together to leave my wife to secure my assets.
Anyway, wife didnt want to accept at first. Then tried to hurt me then hurt the girl. She tried to make her lose custody of her kid. She attacked me and because she threatened my freedom, my kids, the girl and her kids, I let the cops take her. She out the picture. But the girls BD was in the background crying and getting heart broken.
They werent together, not married and she was seeing other people but living with him. A technical cuckold situation and he a whole ass bitch for letting her do thst to him. Anyway, he was telling her he was gonna kill me, whoop my ass the regular type shit. But he aint know i was. He didnt know I was a big ass gangster, trained, and twice his size. He couldnt hold that same energy once he saw me and punked out. But I'm taking care of his kid most of the time now. He called the cops on me becauee i called him a bitch. Idk what to do with people that wont stand up and fight or are just outright cowards. Prior he was doing the shit like bawling crying ans breaking her phone, trying to hold her door so she couldnt leave, breaking into her room yelling and crying, talking about killing himself. Now that he has to accept she mine and the kid is hers he is trying to use the kid to protect himself and shift the narrative to "good dad" when that wasnt his priorities before.
I know I can seem like the asshole in this and in some terms i am. But without all the context i hope.you will take my word for it that i did what was right for everyone even the BD and ex wife. He was being drained having to look at her after she had just got fucked down by me.
Anyway how do I deal with a bitch ass snitch that calls cops and wont have a conversation?

I got 2/3 of the way through this and looks like a train that derailed and still moving just before the motor at the front starts to dig in and cause a pileup.

GTFO out of there man... A woman that will cuck a man in such a manner WILL cheat on you.

 

[RedXXSouth]

Pretty sound advice guys. I am impulsive. I will say the difference between myself and her ex is night and day. He is feminine and weak both physically and emotionally. I dont generally break over anything. I have been happier with her than anything in the past. Im sure it wont last for variety of reasons.

 

[HeatherSwanson]

Pretty sound advice guys. I am impulsive. I will say the difference between myself and her ex is night and day. He is feminine and weak both physically and emotionally. I dont generally break over anything. I have been happier with her than anything in the past. Im sure it wont last for variety of reasons.

Starving in a desert, a cracker would be a feast.

Take a break from the poon and the (quite honestly outrageous) drama that you've got yourself in.

I read what you wrote in entirety... I would have zero part in any of that. Think better of yourself.

 

[TA13579]

As a recently divorced male in my 40s, the best thing you can do is rent a place all to yourself and give relationships a break for awhile. Take some time for yourself and just try to heal from the drama and stress you've just went through. One night stands can also be effective therapy if you keep them no strings attached. I myself went to Thailand and hooked up with some bar sluts and also met a few on dating apps etc.

Be very very careful with this new girl and the BD drama. Ex wives who were recently dumped are going to be looking for revenge, so the best thing you can do is to quietly leave that situation. The single mom knows you're probably in shock and looking to replace the relationship that just recently ended. You're on the rebound and she's going to try and use this to her advantage. Sounds like there is already serious drama and the relationship is very new, not a good sign.

If you can, stay away from your ex wife. Use lawyers to communicate if possible. Get your court stuff settled and behind you as fast as you can. I wish you the best brother... there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

 

[Liter O' Test]

Bro women make up tons of shit about other dudes.

Dudes generally will just dismiss other dudes or say they are a pussy or a liar etc

but women will make up with whole ass narratives to their new boyfriend about the other guys near them.

Like you're going to be in that dudes shoes In a few months.

Doesnt she just have you around to mess with the other dude?

And in her mind you left your wife for her, so she's on top of the world, ego wise. Sounds like you have a histrionic bpd.

Fake quick deep emotions, messing with other dudes emotionally, loving drama.

You're going to be begging to get back with your ex wife in 1-2 months.

Because how quick she moved onto you is how quick she will move onto the next guy.

 

[Dkmmike]

That’s a lot to unpack. I myself have ended up in a bit of this bullshittery in the past.

I’d say just do you, take care of your kid, get the ex wife behind you, and put up some serious boundaries with the new poon.

I could tell myself as much as telling you that you don’t need that drama. If you’re anything like me you’re gonna ride that train into the side of the mountain and try to jump off right before it explodes taking you with it.

Take care of yourself bro. You’re no good to your kid locked up

 

[narta]

Run

 

[Benf15harp]

Damn shame Jerry Springer is no longer with us.
He’d know how to handle this.

 

[hexagonal]

Pretty sound advice guys. I am impulsive. I will say the difference between myself and her ex is night and day. He is feminine and weak both physically and emotionally. I dont generally break over anything. I have been happier with her than anything in the past. Im sure it wont last for variety of reasons.

Whether or not the dude is feminine and weak and letting himself get cucked, it shows she's willing to do that to someone.

If you want to gamble that there's no way in the world that she could ever find some sort of justification to do that sort of thing to you, well, you can. But I wouldn't. Her excuse with him might be that he isn't manly enough. But what if you get busy with work or she gets tired of you being in the gym so much? Maybe she finds someone else because you weren't "emotionally available." Disloyal people and users find a reason and invent one if they can't to justify their actions.

You want a good relationship, start one with someone who doesn't already have a history of this sort of weird ass drama.