Children with autism

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I read the title out loud in my head and felt like yall were making fun of me.. lol! Jk but on a serious note I have a brother with "high" functioning autism. Its a thing and it needs taken into the equation when dealing with them or the relationship and the kid suffer. He's doing well now. Bout to graduate college and make more a year than I have the last 6 lol

That's awesome for him, brother. My son is high functioning as well. I've come to realize we can never treat any kids in an equal manner. They all have different personalities and tolerances. I can't even treat my two "normy" daughters the same way. One of them is very sensitive to everything and gets her feeling her very easily and the other is not like that at all. I can get frustrated with my son at times, but I have to remind myself how difficult things must be for him in a world designed for people that are neurotypical. It just takes more time with him in some areas. He's so intelligent, though. Things that are common sense and obvious to me just don't click with him a lot of the time though. Patience is most definitely a virtue.

I'm just extremely proud of him for putting in the effort to try and learn to understand things he doesn't get, though. We have had many long walks and bike rides where we've tried to help each other understand our worlds and build a bridge between them. Thank God for Brazilian jiu jitsu. I never thought I was going to find something physically and mentally demanding that he was going to take interest in. His professors are amazing and really emphasize to all the students how important discipline, helping others, grades, and helping around the home are. He has improved in all these areas since he started. It's been a true blessing.

 

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That's awesome for him, brother. My son is high functioning as well. I've come to realize we can never treat any kids in an equal manner. They all have different personalities and tolerances. I can't even treat my two "normy" daughters the same way. One of them is very sensitive to everything and gets her feeling her very easily and the other is not like that at all. I can get frustrated with my son at times, but I have to remind myself how difficult things must be for him in a world designed for people that are neurotypical. It just takes more time with him in some areas. He's so intelligent, though. Things that are common sense and obvious to me just don't click with him a lot of the time though. Patience is most definitely a virtue.

I'm just extremely proud of him for putting in the effort to try and learn to understand things he doesn't get, though. We have had many long walks and bike rides where we've tried to help each other understand our worlds and build a bridge between them. Thank God for Brazilian jiu jitsu. I never thought I was going to find something physically and mentally demanding that he was going to take interest in. His professors are amazing and really emphasize to all the students how important discipline, helping others, grades, and helping around the home are. He has improved in all these areas since he started. It's been a true blessing.

Knowing these people truly and giving them what they deserve, which in my opinion is more respect than the average Joe, instead of the instinctual shun instinct they encounter so much socially can be so enriching. They can show you the world you live in through eyes just like yours but soo different.

Glad your kids had the good fortune to have a father who gave more than a damn to know and raise them regardless of differences. You made a difference in the world brother. You have my respect