MESO-Rx

Anabolic Steroids

Anyone having/ or had a loved one in prison?

Hayes88

Hayes88

Member
I am feeling so f*cking helpless and low not being able to do anything but watch someone I love
maybe getting prison up to 10 years.
All for believing the wrong people to get easy money during Covid.

I am doing all I can to involve lawyers, staying strong, preparing costs so that we can battle this
and in the same time being present in the now and handle my businesses.

Wanted to see if anyone else had any similar experience and how they coped?
 
I can’t say from your perspective exactly.

But I spent 3 years in state prison for a weapons offense in my early 20s. It was hell. What made it worse was I was classified high because gun crimes are considered violent crimes, Even if there is no actual victim or violence. The only thing that kept me going was my loved ones writing me letters and me calling them. Just be there unconditionally for your loved one and it’ll make their time in prison easier and less stressful for them.

Tell them do not get involved with prison politics and do not talk negatively about COs or other inmates, it’ll only cause drama. Don’t borrow things either. I did not buy anything while I was in prison (except phone time and stamps) because that makes you open to attacks or bribery.

Don’t start fights or drama but stand up for yourself and don’t let other men know you’re scared, they’ll exploit you.

I’ve never been more grateful for my family than when I was in prison. That type of loyalty and love should be returned once you are released.

If you have any questions or anything pm me

Stay strong brother
 
Stay strong. You yourself and also your loved one. it sucks equally for both sides. Anything you can do at the moment, you already do as I read out!! good luck and strength
 
Really appreciate the words guys, it does help! Lawyers seems to be good luckily, expensive, but good - guess you get what you pay for. Since I am a close one the police raided my home as well, but landlord denied access and lawyers stepped in between since I am not involved. Feels like a damn movie.
 
Anadrol said:
Who cares what he did? We all make mistakes or have lapses in judgment. Talking about it doesn’t make time rewind
Click to expand...
I’m asking because sometimes you simply have to pay the money back rather than go to prison over things, maybe it’s not as bad as he thinks it could be
 
Understandable and that is very much a hope, unfortunately the amount is the issue. There was a foreign company providing work to around 100 people (so far) during Covid and in a country where no state support existed at the time. They had found a loop-hole avoiding foreign tax and combined that with foreigners wanting to purchase apartments.

Now these including my loved one was naive, dumb and desperate and agreed to the terms, opening companies to collect money. It went fast and was in the millions, though commission was very very low.

Little did these people know that they worked for a huge criminal organization that has had eyes on them for a few years by several agencies.

These people (incl my loved one) is now accused for helping a criminal organization launder money when the people thought they were just employees helping foreigners get assets into the country. We are gathering proof stating they are/ were dumb victims, of course they knew it was a grey zone, but not a black zone.

Issue now is that they try to connect all who has had contact with these as a suspect, so they harrass me as well even though I am innocent. If they lock my stuff away it will be hard to help, so now I need to pay a lawyer as well just to prove my innocense, it's retarded, just because I know this person.
 
Hayes88 said:
Really appreciate the words guys, it does help! Lawyers seems to be good luckily, expensive, but good - guess you get what you pay for. Since I am a close one the police raided my home as well, but landlord denied access and lawyers stepped in between since I am not involved. Feels like a damn movie.
Click to expand...
You really do get what you pay for when it comes to attorneys. Y’all made a good choice in going with someone that’s going to take the time to be thorough and do the job right. I feel for you, bro. I have family and friends in and out of the penitentiary their whole adult lives, and it can either be a tool for good and a time for self-improvement and growth or it can allow the person to sink into a victim mindset that is looking for someone else to blame for their poor choices. I’ve seen both of these occur. If your loved one ends up having to serve time, encourage them to spend their time in the former mentality. Majority of prison systems offer high school and college courses, vocational training, and a whole lot of other opportunities for growth to those who do what they’re supposed to do and act in a proper manner. As @Anadrol mentioned above, try to encourage him to stay away from prison politics and the organizations inside there. It’s not worth it to get involved and will only dampen the opportunities of rehabilitation and hinder their prospects of finding a meaningful calling when they return to the free world. Take care, bro. I wish all the best.
 
Thank you bro, appreciate the words and advice! My first set of lawyers went cold turkey and stopped answering calls, chat and emails since yesterday morning, we couldn't wait so via a friend we found another one - a badass girl, sweet on the outside, ready to bite on the in.

I asked the former lawyer before if I should talk with police to show I am not involved, they stated stay away. This lawyer took me in the car and drove me there immediately, got me off the hook and paperwork if they harrass me more, including her private number. She was cheaper as well...

She will now go with my loved one mid next week. She stated bluntly that my loved one gotta take responsibility and help the police to the best of their ability, if lucky, bail and ankle-bracelet. She suspected this case will take a long long time to handle, too many parties, meaning no leaving the country even if bail is approved for a year or two waiting for decision, then hope for the best.
 
Alot of people are very upset over those hundreds of billions in fraudulent payments.
 
fike said:
You really do get what you pay for when it comes to attorneys. Y’all made a good choice in going with someone that’s going to take the time to be thorough and do the job right. I feel for you, bro. I have family and friends in and out of the penitentiary their whole adult lives, and it can either be a tool for good and a time for self-improvement and growth or it can allow the person to sink into a victim mindset that is looking for someone else to blame for their poor choices. I’ve seen both of these occur. If your loved one ends up having to serve time, encourage them to spend their time in the former mentality. Majority of prison systems offer high school and college courses, vocational training, and a whole lot of other opportunities for growth to those who do what they’re supposed to do and act in a proper manner. As @Anadrol mentioned above, try to encourage him to stay away from prison politics and the organizations inside there. It’s not worth it to get involved and will only dampen the opportunities of rehabilitation and hinder their prospects of finding a meaningful calling when they return to the free world. Take care, bro. I wish all the best.
Click to expand...
This is very good advice.

Prison can do two things to a man. It can harden him and make him more likely to go back to prison (they call this the revolving door), Where he’s just in and out of prison the rest of his life. Because he gets institutionalized or he doesn’t learn from his punishment.

Or it can scare you straight and encourage you to better yourself once you are released.

For me it scared me straight. When I was released I immediately stopped associating with friends I felt were a bad influence or that were holding me back from being a productive member of society.


Being in a cage for extended periods will change you. When I was released I was extremely paranoid of peoples motives, I’d be wondering why people were standing too close to me in line at the gas station. I was always on edge. It took many years to feel normal again. Therapy isn’t for me, But it helps some people. Your loved one may need it once they are released if you notice their personality has changed. @Hayes88
 
You must log in or register to reply here.

Similar threads

B
BACK IN THE SADDLE
Replies
3
Views
382
oldmanwilliams
O
Hayes88
Mentally breaking - Need advice
Replies
19
Views
915
lukiss96
lukiss96
Astartes
INSPIRE OTHERS - Share Your Stories
Replies
2
Views
195
Slowww
Slowww
C
Average Middle Age Dude Getting Back at it
Replies
7
Views
230
ThatFunk
T
rross1206
First post, old(ish) dude, eager to learn
Replies
2
Views
116
Mike1972
M

Sponsors

Latest posts

Back
Top